Relationship

Here are 5 Reasons Why Your Friends With Benefits Relationship Won’t Last…

By Mauris Othuke

How to avoid love come in between this sweet thing.

 

 

We generally do not strategize or plan to get into a friends with benefits relationship. If often results from one great taste leading to wanting to try it again and maybe again until it’s official we’re here just to keep tasting ourselves for as long as we like.

According to Stacey Laura from MyDomaine, a friends with benefits relationship is that which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. And that’s where the problem generally comes in!

We get so carried away with the enjoyment and the sexual intimacy that we begin to feel we can’t do without them and then we start wanting to get more involved with them which acts as a hole to the ship.

So here are five ways to avoid losing the good sex because of your emotions which the other party doesn’t want;

1. You’re Trying To Cultivate A Shared Interest

After the first and second awesome sex, it’s not unusual to start looking for ways to spend more time together because you want to enjoy more of what you’ve already.

This sometimes makes us cancel plans or clear our schedules just to be around one another. Although that’s not a bad thing. You should only focus on having sex and leaving.

Because the moment you start looking for more ways to be around one another, the more you’d start getting more interested in one another outside sex.

So resist the urge to do things like; going to the gym, seeing the latest movie or taking a new course together. Because according to Christina Powell, a psychotherapist, one of the best ways to foster a connection is through a shared activity.

2. You’re Getting Them to Talk More And Be Open

After a sex marathon or episode, we rarely want to pack our bags to leave. So we sometimes, end up staying on the bed for hours or watching Netflix together.

So in order to avoid a boring atmosphere, you decide to encourage them to open up or keep asking them personal questions that will make them want to reveal more about themselves to you.

Although getting them to reveal more about themselves to you isn’t something, you need to be reminded that, opening up to one another is what people who are in a romantic relationship do. And the more you open up, the more you find similarities which will, therefore, trigger liking one another more.

So, therefore, in other to avoid talking about things that will get you to like one another more, after sex, pack your bags and leave.

3. You’re Doing Things Because ….

In other words, you’re sacrificing yourself or happiness even though they might not mean much to you for theirs.

As little as buying things they want to buying things they like over buying what you really want, should be stopped because when you start buying the things which they want over the things which you want, it would make you start feeling invested in them, and no one wants to lose anything which they invest in.

So avoid buying the KFC over the McDonalds that you really want because she likes KFC, and you want to make them smile.

4. You’re Encouraging Going Out Together

According to Elite Daily, one out of the twelve things that makes people fall in love is going out together.

Going out together creates more room for you to see yourself, touch yourselves and enjoy one another’s presence outside the bed.

This is against the terms and conditions of friends with benefits relationships. Going out together is what only couples do to grow their relationship.

Soon enough, when you continue going out together for a while, you won’t want to go out without having them around you because “you’re used to it”. So if they bring it up, discourage it.

5. You’re Paying Attention to The Little Things

Little things always add up. They help improve a relationship and the value one person has for the other.

Activities like;

  • Doing the dishes because she loves a clean kitchen.
  • Helping her clean her sneakers because she’s lazy to do them.

All adds up, doing these things will make you feel more connected to her. Psychologically, we unconsciously want to be around people who we can help in one way or another.

So these are the 5 things which you should avoid if you’re afraid of heartbreak or not ready to fall in love.

The key thing to remember here is, after the business has been conducted don’t spend much more time together, it’s unhealthy.

5 First Time Sex Positions To Keep Her Coming Back For More (Thick or Thin)

5 First Time Sex Positions To Keep Her Coming Back For More (Thick or Thin)

No! You don’t have to be a pro to try them out…
Photo by Emiliano Vittoriosi on Unsplash

By Mauris Othuke

Did she finally agree to come visit you after a successful first date? Are you a charmer for picking up new women and taking them home? Or does your new partner want to come over and do it for the first time?
 
Is she so hot or too pretty that you don’t want to disappoint her? Then be ready, because today, you’re about to learn how to give her sex like she hasn’t experienced in a while or even in her lifetime, which will help you keep her or make her think about you endlessly.
 
According to an unofficial poll, most people are unwilling to stay in a relationship if the sex is bad. Even if you’re not interested in a relationship yet, you should get her to see that you’re a one of a kind guy.
 
Before we start, here are some rules you should observe to make the whole process go smoothly. 
  • A cool and calm environment is best.
  • Lubricants will reduce pain and make it more pleasurable for both of you.
With that said, let’s get started on how to make her feel like you’re a sex god.

1. THE SLOW COOKER

The man who women truly enjoy having sex with is he who doesn’t begin sex as soon as clothes come off. On the other hand, kissing isn’t all there is to foreplay. Therefore, to give her an exciting experience, start with at least 5 minutes of non-stop foreplay — don’t forget to breathe!
 
Then after foreplay, kickstart the journey with this position. Get her to lay her back on the bed, then kneel right in front of the vagina and ask her to wrap her legs around your butt. This will help keep the friction and reduce the number of times the penis falls off.

2. DOGGY WITH A PILLOW

Here’s why this is better than the normal doggy. The pillow gives her support and helps her stay in that position longer. Which means you’ll worry less about having to pull her back every time.
 
So here’s how to give her the best when it comes to this style. Have her kneel on the bed in a regular doggy position. Then place a pillow in between her stomach and the pelvic region. Then start thrusting. To make the process easier for you, make her open her legs and kneel in between them.

3. SIDE CUDDLE

After those two positions, you might both need to take rest, but that does not mean you should call it quit. So this position will come in handy and help you restore strength.
 
Lay on the bed with your ribs, and have her do the same. You can either do this face to face or have her facing the other side. Face to face will get you smiling at one another while having your face on her back will make her scream more.

4. THE DUO

 This position is best for fourth place. Start this by stimulating her clits — every woman enjoys that. Make sure your fingers are trimmed every time you want to have sex.

 
Then have her lay on her back like the first position. Ask her to place her legs on your shoulders, then start thrusting.
 
What makes this position the duo is the ability to use your hands to give her a second sensation, especially on her breast. — I mean her nipples, just pinch and rub them softly while penetrating. If she is bold, she’ll tell you she’s in paradise.

5. THE LAP WALTZ

The best sex is that which makes a woman feel as though she’s on top of the world. So literally let her get on top this time — come on, you’ve been on top twice!
 
So lay on your back. Then ask her to kneel while trying to sit on your penis like the missionary style. As she’s coming on top, hold your penis and direct it easily into her vagina, so the process won’t seem awkward. Then ask her to lay her hands on your shoulders, and let her ride according to the rhythm.
 
I just want to say congratulations on seeing these five positions to an end. You’re a genius and she knows it! The only reason why she might not come back is that she’s boring when it comes to sex. It ain’t your fault!

5 Unfailing Signs Your Friend Wants A Romantic Relationship With You…

By Mauris Othuke

Do you want to know the signs you should look out for so that you can successfully move the friendship to a relationship or so that it won’t backfire on you?

Rejection from the one whom we thought we had enough chemistry with brings us nothing but regrets and pain, which psychologically kills confidence and self-esteem.

In order to avoid this, just as a smart man would wait for the traffic signs before crossing the road, 

That’s how you should look for the following signs before deciding it’s about time to cross from friendship to relationship;

1. They Constantly Invite You To Meet Family & Friends 

 

“Special people should meet special people.”

When a friend begins to let you know that they’d like you to meet their other friends or invite you to see their family, 

It’s a sign that they want the people who are special in their life to see someone like you around them.

On the other hand, a friend who wants you to “meet a friend whom they think is nice” is a friend who’s trying to hook you up, not someone who wants to be in a relationship with you.

2. They Constantly Ask You Personal Question

 

There are over 200 personal questions to ask someone, but here are some questions which transcend small talks;

Where is one place you feel most like yourself? Who is the one person in this world that knows you best? Do you believe in love at first sight? Do you believe in soul mates? Do you believe in love? What is one thing you feel your life is missing?

A friend who continuously asks you such questions, is a friend who not only cares about you but also has a high level of interest in you.

If those questions lead them to …

3. Ask About Past Relationship

 

Know this …

Except they’re a marriage counselor or a therapist, a friend who asks more intimate questions like;

How was your last relationship? Who broke it off? How did your partner make you feel? 

Is a friend who is trying to understand your emotional life more, and is considering being part of it.

4. They Suggest & Want More Time With You

 

Special people should be taken to special places.

Asking you out once might not mean so much, but …

If a friend usually recommends a place that is cozy or romantic, chances are they enjoy being private and want more personal time with you. 

Here are some questions that will give you hints;

What are you doing? Are you home alone? Don’t you get tired of stating at home? What’s your favorite restaurant? Would you go with me to my favorite restaurant? Let’s go to the cinema together! Would you go to ABC with me?

If you need more signs like this, you won’t be doing any harm following my Instagram page @relationshipcopywriter which gives the most relatable attraction tips.

5. Mistakenly Call Someone Else Your Name

 

This is a classic! When your friend calls another guy or girl your name, it simply means they’ve been constantly thinking about you.

If you’ve witnessed this, it means, you mean a lot to them.

On the other hand, if they’ve mistakenly or boldly admitted this to you, it means they’re proud of it.

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