Why The Season Is No Reason To Rush Into A Possible Explosive Relationship…
The best things usually take time!
By Mauris Othuke
Regardless of what you’re wearing or your current live location, the picture socially doesn’t get enough admiration during the holiday season when everyone else is posing with their partner.
Thoughts like; “I spent the last holiday all alone, do I have to go through the same suffering for the next?” might force you to do what you know you’re not really ready for.
So are you going to allow “what you think they will think” make you do what you know you’re not really ready for? By rushing into a relationship because you desire to have a beautiful looking 24 hours — sometimes just 12 hours? I mean you’ve got to sleep right?
Well, here are 5 reasons in addition to the fact that it’s something which you’re not really ready for, you should consider before rushing into a relationship because of the season;
1. You May Compromise Yourself
The rush of securing someone for the season could sometimes make you compromise yourself and do things that you don’t really want to do.
The first thing you need to know is, whenever we do things in a hurry, we usually don’t end up with the best results. Which leads us to stress ourselves to burnout.
You may also end up UNCONSCIOUSLY hurting your existing relationships, pushing family and friends away because you’re focused on spending more time and pleasing new bae.
Your desperation could also make those people who like you avoid or stay away because you’re bugging them for dates.
Other than that, even when you finally secure bae, you may end up saying or doing things that you don’t mean. Or even do and say things that stand against your values or make promises that you know you can’t keep. All in the name of being on their right side.
2. You Might Miss Reality
As you already know love takes time. It’s not something that happens overnight. A relationship that you rush into because of the season isn’t usually led by love. I know someone is about to whisper “what about love at first sight?”
The truth is everything good takes time. You’re most likely not going to get the best if you don’t give it time.
Rushing into a relationship doesn’t give room for understanding yourselves properly. Your intuition might tell you “they might like this thing”. But then they make faces after you’ve spent your time and money to get that thing you think is special for them.
Another way you might miss reality is that you won’t get to see them for who they truly are. Then you’d start thinking “if only I gave it time.”
Making the wrong decision during this season is inevitable. This will result from the inability to take your time while making decisions.
3. You Might End Up Doing Too Much But Not Enough
We’re bound to do everything possible to make them happy. All in the name of pleasing them so that they don’t find reasons to say no.
But here’s this. Most of the things you’re going to do are not what they really want. Because at the stage, you do things which you THINK ARE RIGHT, not what you know they really want.
Sometimes, your friends might tell you, you’re not on the right path, but you’re going to ignore them because they seem like an obstacle to your goal.
4. You Won’t Be Able to Tell If It’s Real
It’s somewhat inevitable that at this stage where you want to get into a relationship, you’d buy gifts and shower them with lots of presents.
What if they agree to go into a relationship with you because the gifts are too good to ignore, not you being too good to ignore? DANG!
There’s nothing as saddening as being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t “feel the same”.
You could also, unfortunately, get into a relationship with someone who is in a rebound mood. Just take a second to imagine your relationship now.
What if they’re not ready to build a relationship because the last one they tried to build didn’t turn out right? but the pressure from you was too much that they just had to agree?
5. It Will Lead You to Self Doubt
At the end, if eventually, things don’t turn out the way you want, then it means you’ve found yourself in another “failed relationship”.
Then you’ll begin to feel like you’re not really lovable and start singing “I’m bad at love” – by Halsey.
This could also lead you into distrusting your self-image, and signing up for team “love isn’t real”.
We’re not encouraging you to be single during the couples season. All we’re saying is, don’t rush into something that will help you feel happy for only one day.
Here are the key takeaways;
- You might lose yourself trying to be or please someone else.
- The good things in life take time, so are you looking for a good thing or a quick fix?
- There’s nothing as frustrating as doing things with a lot of effort for someone who doesn’t think you’re not doing the right thing. That’s how it will feel then you don’t take time to know the other party.
- What if they’re not ready for a relationship or don’t love you back?
- If it fails you have another negative score at a relationship and might feel love isn’t for you.
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